allonlinenovel Chapter 581 When Your Parents Ruin What You're Expecting
Chapter 581 When Your Parents Ruin What You're Expecting
During my junior high school summer job, I worked until the early hours of the morning and only earned two thousand yuan a month. I was always thinking about how to spend the huge sum of money. When I went back to my hometown and came back, all my money had turned into a television set.
My mom said there's no such thing as "yours" and "mine." She said she never minded me spending her money. I sat in front of the TV and cried silently all afternoon.
During my junior year winter break internship, I earned over 3000 yuan. My mom kept saying she wanted to buy a dining table for the family, so I offered to buy her one. At that moment, she was sitting on the bed knitting a sweater.
After she accepted the money without hesitation, she said to me, "You're just showing off!" Me: ???
My heart sank. I never took out any money again, and after I started working, I kept complaining about being poor.
In junior high, I loved playing with modeling clay and was particularly good at sculpting all sorts of animals, which I would then display on my bedside table. When my younger cousin, who was in elementary school, came to visit, I knew he was mischievous and would definitely break them, so I deliberately closed the door to his room.
My mom opened the door for him, and I watched helplessly as he went in and deliberately smashed my artwork with a few punches, all while laughing. I was furious and went up to punch him, but then my grandma slapped me.
Of the four elderly people in my family, I was closest to my maternal grandmother. After this incident, I haven't had any further interaction with any grandparents or other relatives.
During the worst of the lockdown in Hubei, my brother and I were in our hometown. When we were cooking, some of the fried food wasn't cooked through and water got in, so we burned our hands in many places. We couldn't buy medicine at the time, so we could only rinse them with water, and it was winter.
I messaged my mom about this, and she said, "What's the point of telling her besides making her worry? There's nothing I can do even if we're under lockdown."
"I especially love Daoxiangcun's ox-tongue biscuits, but they don't sell them in my small county. During summer vacation, I specially bought two big bags of ox-tongue biscuits to bring home, thinking that everyone in my family could try them. Buying a lot meant I would have enough to eat during the summer vacation. But as soon as I got back, I had barely taken two bites before my mom gave them away."
"Because I'm graduating from university, I sent all my things from school home, but they were all packed in cardboard boxes and sealed with tape. I even put the valuables on the bookshelf."
After I went out for an internship, I suddenly returned home one time and found that all my valuables, my gold necklace (gift from my godmother and some I bought myself), and some birthday gifts from friends were gone.
My sister stole them all, and they're all gone now. My mom does nothing; she lets her into my room all she wants. I don't talk to anyone in my family anymore, and my mom thinks I'm being dramatic [smile]"
"My brother and I share a room, and all our things are together. At first, I told my mom and brother not to touch my things, and I said it several times, but they didn't take it seriously. Until one time, my brother broke something, and I slapped him to the ground in front of my mom (I was pretty strong, and my brother is 7 years younger than me). Then I started beating him up, and my mom couldn't stop me. After that, my family stopped touching my things. Even now, my brother and I still share a room, and he doesn't dare to touch my things anymore [facepalm]"
"No one dares to enter my room [in the petrochemical industry]. When I go back to my hometown, I put my clothes on the bed, and when I come back the following year, the clothes will still be on the bed. My family is quite afraid of me (including relatives). I never care about other people's feelings. I've broken all the chairs without backs in my house, and I've also broken cups and bowls."
My grandpa once cut down our orange trees without considering my feelings, intending to sell them for money (the oranges were for my parents to eat during the Lunar New Year; our two plots of land were separate, and I specifically told him about it the night before, and he cut them all down the next day). [hehe] I smashed all the sacks of oranges on the ground to pieces, and then I cried and made a scene all day. They're terrified of me now [girls] and never dare to touch our things again.”
It's common for adults to take your pocket money, whether in ancient or modern times.
Many people recall the copper coins they painstakingly saved over the years, which they couldn't bear to spend a single one of.
When the parents saw it, they naturally assumed that the money was free and spent it on household items without hesitation.
It was such a small thing, but I've remembered it for so long.
I'm not a stingy person. If my family really needed money, I could have just asked them, and they might have been willing to give me all of it. So why didn't they even ask? Why did they just take it for granted and spend all my money on me? Before, when we bought things for the family, even something small, we would discuss it with them for a long time before deciding whether to buy it or not. Why is it that when it comes to my money, I just spend it without a word?
Our ancestors in ancient times saw this and remembered it.
Although most of them are minor things, when you grow up, a few snacks and toys are really nothing, and sometimes you can even just laugh it off.
But when you're young, you really feel wronged and can't accept it. Everyone grows up from a child. If adults could realize that children also have their own thoughts and dignity, and treat them equally, that would be great.